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Did You Win? Did You Lose? Those Are The Wrong Questions For Parents To Ask

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PCA National Advisory Board Member Carol Dweck is the Lewis and Virginia Eaton Professor of Psychology at Stanford University and author of Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. She graduated from Barnard College in 1967 and earned a Ph.D. from Yale University in 1972. She taught at Columbia University, Harvard University, and the University of Illinois before joining the Stanford faculty in 2004.

In this video, Dweck talks about the importance of having a growth mindset instead of focusing on comparing your youth athlete to the other kids and putting pressure on them to be better than everyone else. Parents need to promote the idea that winning or losing are not all or nothing concepts and that both outcomes provide learning opportunities for the next game. The questions parents should be asking their kid is: “Did you give it your all?” because that’s what matters the most."