How Can I Help My Son Over His Nervousness?
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"Our 14-year-old son is a good athlete, but for individual sports events he gets so nervous that he actually ends up sick (stomach, headache) after big events. We have done all we can think of as parents to help him relax and enjoy sports for the fun of it. Can anyone recommend a sports psychologist, books, or motivational DVDs that might help?"
PCA Response Excerpted From Elevating Your Game by PCA Founder Jim Thompson (@JimThompson18)
We get "attached" when something seems so important we can't feel good about ourselves unless we achieve it. Our self-worth is threatened, our efforts become feverish and ineffective, and we may even panic.
We've all had teammates so anxious about a last-second play they aren't able to take their best shot. This happens at all levels of sports. After the Los Angeles Lakers edged the Boston Celtics in the 2010 NBA Finals, Kobe Bryant said of his poor shooting early in Game 7, "You know, I just wanted it so bad... And the more I tried to push, the more it kept getting away from me."
In pressure moments, competitors can be helped by a concept called "non-attachment." Non-attachment is the ability to detach oneself from the outcome of a performance. Top performing athletes understand that the result of an athletic contest does not define them as a person. When athletes define themselves by results, the desire to succeed can produce a hyped-up emotional state that robs them of their best effort.
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