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How Athletes Set Parameters And Boundaries With Their Parents Who Coach

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This video is brought to you by Vivo Girls Sports -- a digital media property and global online community for active girls and young women. Vivo Girls Sports developed an online video library from a network of highly respected sports experts to answer important questions from the community. Their mission is to keep girls healthy and playing sports.

One of these experts is Tina Syer (@tinasyer4), the former President at Positive Coaching Alliance. Syer played Division I field hockey at Stanford University, where she graduated with honors and was named an Academic All-America. Her coaching experience includes seasons at the high school, college and Olympic Development levels.

In this video, Syer discusses strategies for an athlete dealing with a parent-coach who focuses too much on the sport. Unlike the other athletes on a team, if your parent is the coach you may find yourself focused on the sport uncomfortably beyond the normal confines of practices and games. Parent-coaches should avoid creating that type of experience for their youth athletes, carefully managing their dual roles. But if they aren’t. then athletes may need to raise the issue and explain how this impacts you as both your coach's player and your parent's child. It’s okay to set some parameters and want to be treated like your other teammates.