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Don't Live Vicariously Through Your Child

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Eric Eisendrath is a former Division One hockey goalie from Brown University and has experience as a soccer, lacrosse, and hockey coach. He also has 20 years of experience in sports television, covering every major league in professional sports and five Olympic Games. Eisendrath explains one of the great challenges for parents is living vicariously through their children. It is easy for parents, especially parents who pursued a career in sports, to do everything in their power to guarantee that their children can live out the dream they always had. The problem with this is that the dreams of children and their parents do not always match up, and this often pollutes the child’s sport experience. It is essential that parents recognize the incentives of their children separately from their own and that they have the ability to step back, letting their children have their own individual experience.