Keith Van Horn: Delusional Parent Disorder
Keith Van Horn (@Coach_Keith44) played in the NBA for 10 years, participating in two NBA Finals and finishing his career with an average of nearly 16 points and seven rebounds per game. Earlier, he was a Consensus First Team All-America and 1997 ESPN National Performer of the Year at University of Utah.
Keith, a member of PCA's National Advisory Board, currently serves as Executive Director for Colorado Premier Basketball Club, which he founded based on many PCA principles. Keith is passionate about improving our youth sports culture and writes about his experiences and opinions in his blog, Layups and Rebounds. The following summarizes one of Keith's posts.
Nearly every parent, he writes, suffers from "Delusional Parent Disorder (DPD)" and experiences an extremely biased perspective of their kid in sports. While this condition is not a confirmed psychological condition, he argues that all parents suffer from it, just at varying degrees.
"It does seem that there is something in our genetic makeup that makes us parents feel that our children are always better than they actually are. We can’t help it and I feel that way about my own four children," he writes. Unfortunately, those feelings can instill a belief within our children that they are not living up to our expectations. Children's frustration with that emotion may lead them to stop taking personal responsibility for their own enjoyment and improvement in their sport. Instead they may learn to blame coaches and teammates and are more likely to rely on someone else to help them get to the “next level” rather than finding the passion and desire within themselves to improve and reach their goals.
To read this excerpt in more detail on Keith Van Horn's blog Layups and Rebounds, click the link below.