Playing Time Blues
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This resource is from a case study in Jim Thompson’s (@JimThompson18) book, The High School Sports Parent.
Playing Time Blues: Your daughter plays less than you like. You “know” she is better than an athlete who is playing more. As a Second-Goal Parent®, what should you do?
In high school sports playing time is totally at the discretion of the coach, who has much more information than any parent about relative player ability, how much effort each player is making, etc.
Although you are frustrated with your teen’s playing time, she may not be. Find out. And try to do this without asking her. If you ask about whether she is frustrated by the amount of time she is on the field, you may be planting an unhelpful seed in her head.
Instead, watch her. Is she excited to go to practice and games? Does she have a lot to tell you about after games? These are signs that she is engaged and not upset by her playing time.
If you come to believe that she is indeed discouraged by not playing more, you can suggest that she approach the coach to see what she can do to get more playing time. Imagine your athlete saying something like, “Coach, I’d really like to play more. Do you have any suggestions for things I can do to be able to play more?”
To read the full response, including more ways to talk with your child about playing time issues, download the book excerpt found below. Not getting to play enough can be one reason kids want to quit sports, and this excerpt can help if your child is in this situation.
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