This resource stems from a Case Study found in the “What Do You Do When?” chapter of Jim Thompson’s (@JimThompson18) book, Elevating Your Game.

I can’t go into all of the reasons why, but I don’t get along with my coach. How can I play for someone I have problems with?

When athletes click with a coach, it is terrific. But many athletes and coaches don’t. Nonetheless, the smart ones find ways to work together for the betterment of the team. Here’s how you can do this.

Recognize that coaching is hard: Some coaches make coaching seem effortless, but it isn’t. Coaching is difficult, especially for new coaches and recent head coaches. Knowing this may make it easier for you to feel empathy for your coach.

Don’t let this ruin your sports experience: You will have talented and untalented supervisors your whole life. Don’t let the quality of your experience depend on the quality of your supervisor. Make a commitment to yourself to stay positive and give your best effort to make this season the best it can be.

Focus your energy: Don’t waste your limited energy talking trash about your coach with your teammates. This can create a downward spiral that may only make things worse as negativity feeds hungrily on negativity. Focus on things you can control to make yourself and your team better.

To read the full response, including more ways to deal with a difficult coach (particularly helpful if you have a child that wants to quit), download the book excerpt found below.

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