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"I'm new to my high school, and my teammates harass me at practice. Every time I mess up they hound me, and every time I try to be positive some kids ignore me. My confidence is low. I just want to have a positive time, but I feel bullied. Any suggestions?”

PCA Response By Joe Scally, PCA Trainer – Chicago
Moving to a new school is often difficult. Your new teammates aren’t making the change any easier. It’s important for you to maintain your integrity in this situation, even in the face of being harassed or ignored. Continue to treat others as you’d like to be treated yourself.

There are many possible explanations for your teammates’ behavior. They may treat all new team members in these ways. The overall team culture may be a negative one, with harassment, criticism, and ignoring being tolerated or even promoted. Some individuals may be worried about losing playing time to you and so respond negatively.

The thing you have control over is how you act toward your teammates. Examine your actions to make sure you are being how you want to be. Talking this over with a friend, parent, or teacher whose perspective you trust may help. Continue to be positive. We know that being positive helps you play better. Your positive approach may also rub off on your teammates and improve the team culture.

No matter the reasons, there is no excuse for harassment or bullying. If a teammate’s actions make you uncomfortable let someone know.

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