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"Our U9 competitive soccer team has a model PCA Double-Goal Coach, but the majority of parents are struggling with our lack of wins. They chose competitive over rec in many cases because they don't want their kids on losing sides. The most competitive parents have said that their kids come home demoralized by the losses but my daughter seems able to take the losses in stride and still enjoy the games. How can I keep the parents supportive of our Double-Goal Coach?"

PCA Response by Jim Thompson (@JimThompson18), PCA Executive Director
As a lone parent who recognizes the value of the situation your child is in, you have to be thoughtful about how to try to make the situation better. Here are some thoughts:

1. Continue to reinforce your daughter's effort and notice her improvement. Don't let others' "Eeyore reactions" color yours.
2. Reinforce the coach for his Double-Goal Coaching. Tell him you appreciate his positive approach and let him know your daughter is having a good experience.
3. Give him a copy of PCA's Script and Talking Points for the ELM Tree of Mastery -- E for effort, L for learning and M for bouncing back from mistakes. Download it here Tell him, "I think you'll really like this material from Positive Coaching Alliance because it is in line with your coaching style."

3 more tips included in the download, found below

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