Guilt Over Hurting Opponent
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"One of the youth football players I coach cleanly tackled an opponent, who suffered a broken collarbone on the play. Everyone shook hands just fine after the game, but now my player feels guilty and unsure he wants to keep playing. Any advice on how I can bring my player back around?"
PCA Response by Mike Farley, PCA Trainer-Milwaukee
First of all, I'm glad that the game ended with shaking hands and that everyone involved understood that injuries can occur in any game. However, for this young player, having the knowledge that his hit may have helped cause this injury can be very upsetting.
It will help him to consider all of the factors that might have led to this injury, and to re-consider whether his play was the cause.
- Bones don't typically break from the force, but from an awkward fall or position of the body.
- The injured player might have been in a poor position to take the blow.
- This bone may have been on the verge of breaking and your player's tackle was just the final straw.
Share these ideas with your player, so he doesn't start feeling -- like the comic character The Incredible Hulk -- that he's dangerous or not to be trusted with others. I doubt your player will ever break another athlete's bone. It's pretty rare.
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