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Parent Tip From Charlie Slagle: What to Ask Your Kid On The Car Ride Home

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Charlie Slagle is a long-time soccer coach at many levels, most prominently for 21 years at Davidson College, where he is a Hall of fame inductee and was named D-I Men's National Coach of the Year. Charlie also served for 12 years as CEO of Capital Area Soccer League and is now CEO for Tampa Bay United and President for United Soccer Coaches (@UnitedCoaches).

In this video, Charlie describes the ideal car ride home for a child after a practice or game. The parent should ask "Did you have fun?" and "Did you try your best?" and "Were you a good person out there?" Parents should avoid commenting on coaching decisions and the like to ensure they do not turn an otherwise positive experience for the child into a negative one. As Charlie points out, many children can take a 12-2 loss, have a snack and be ready for the next game.