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Kids Always Answer That They Want To Hear Nothing From Sideline Parents

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John O'Sullivan (@coachjohnnyo) started the Changing the Game Project in 2012 after two decades as a soccer player and coach on the youth, high school, college and professional level. He is the author of the #1 bestselling books Changing the Game: The Parents Guide to Raising Happy, High Performing Athletes, and Giving Youth Sports Back to our Kids and Is it Wise to Specialize? John is also a regular contributor for, and his writing has been featured in many publications including The Huffington Post and Soccer America.

Parents yell and scream from the sidelines because they love them and want to help them. In this video, John O'Sullivan explains how you can love your kids in a more helpful way. It is difficult for kids to hear instruction in the run of play even if its from the coach, so when parents chime in from the sidelines, it doesn't help kids learn, it hurts them.

Second, when O'Sullivan asked over thousands of Student-Athletes what they'd prefer to hear from parents, they answered unanimously: "nothing." When asked the same question, parents already knew that answer, yet they still proceed to yell and scream at games. O'Sullivan ends by urging parents to ask their kids what will be most helpful for them during games rather than sticking to yelling.